You need to bleed before you get a job after college

It’s probably be a good time to tell my story of getting a job after college. It’s a very interesting one too, but I’ll save that for a little bit later. I’m not great with stories. Mental note: “Prat, you need to come back here and finish this story.”

But for now, I wanted to publish this out to all the people who are looking for their first job or a job after a significant career change or unemployment: I have never know a person to have gotten the first job they applied to. 

Getting a job after college is hard work. You have to toil and you have to get no’s before you get your first yes. So, get those no’s flowing quickly so you can reach the yes. Of course, there are many jobs that may seem like a fantastic fit to you, or that might seem like you are over-qualified for, but that’s alright. Get a no and move on, always hoping for a yes. It’s really most comparable to dating or picking up a girl/guy from a bar, except for a relationship. Which reminds me, I don’t know anybody who got into a long-term relationship at a bar/club. It’s all about what you’re looking for, and people go to clubs to dance and get laid, not to start relationships. Spend a lot of time understanding what you’re looking for and where/how to find it. Equally important, what the other person values. More to come in a future blog post about how to look for jobs.

Are you looking for a job, or have found one and it didn’t correspond to what I wrote above? Probably not, but let me know below.

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Would you want his job?

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A lot of my friends and family reached out to me after my last post thinking I am sad. So, I just wanted to throw out my usual philosophy out there. More to come in my life hacks post!

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Have a sad Diwali!

It’s a big day for Hindus, its Diwali. The quickest way of describing this day for Christians is that it’s the Hindu equivalent of Christmas, and it’s to celebrate the conquering of good over evil. Rama (one of our most important Gods) returned somewhere close to this day and it also marks the death of Narakasura (a celebrated equivalent of Devil who successfully made his way in both Ramayana and Mahabharatha…quite a feat!).

As I scroll through my Facebook I get to see a lot of a lot of people saying “Happy Diwali!” For me, this day has mostly heralded more sadness than happiness. It seems like for the world this day is a bomb Diwali, including the girl below.

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I went to boarding school when I was in grade VII, because I saw all the brothers in my family go to boarding. It was my family’s Parampara - tradition. I wanted to be a part of this tradition so I was somehow able to coax my parents to send me to boarding school in India, very far away from home. My mother didn’t want to send her younger son, me, but I finally prevailed over her selfish love. Honestly, I cared less about tradition and more about being able to talk like my elder brother/cousins and being able to get the love and attention I saw them get when the came back for holidays. I always felt like I was less loved when my dear brother visited and it was insecurity that drove me to want this. Insecurity about being second-best and the less loved. In all fairness, as a cute, chubby, happy kid, I was loved by a lot of people and got lots of attention. I’m spoiled. I love attention, who doesn’t? Even Barack Obama does, and so did Gandhi.

To the world, I have always seemed like the happy-go-lucky person, and in all honesty, I am happy. Yet, I can tell you that people who really know me, know that there is a lot more sadness in me than I care to show. Every time I see all the happy tweets and fb statuses, I get a feeling that I’m just a failure.

So, I want to take this opportunity to wish everybody a sad Diwali, but a real Diwali. Celebrate this Diwali with family, good food, and diyas (lights). If you feel good, bad, angry, sad or anything at all for me, please don’t celebrate this day with fire crackers and bombs. Remember that you are hurting all the people that you are making sad; this has more to do with the people who make these fire-crackers than spoiled people like me.

I would like to end this post by thanking some people who’ve made living in US and holiday celebrations a real joy! I celebrated different moments with them: Diwali/Dashera, Christmas, Easter, or just a few special days when they included me in their family. I don’t want to name them for I don’t want anybody to hate me on this auspicious day. They know who they are, and for the first time in my life, I’m going to take this opportunity to wish these individuals thank-you for including me in your celebrations. I will never forget what they did for me.

What do you think about celebrating special days, and what is the one day that you really look forward to celebrating? Is it something that makes you happy?

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The most important lesson I learnt in college – the value of being dependable

This was a post I posted on another blog I started. I really liked what I wrote about being dependable and want to reinforce the same again. It has made a significant impact in my life and I’m convinced that it’s one of the most valuable lessons I’ve learnt in my life. i had written this post in March 2011. This was fairly close to my gradation – May 2011. I’m copy/pasting what I had written below. 

I feel one of the biggest challenges in life is to understand oneself, and then to be that self. It requires a complex mixture of introspection, understanding others, and continuous evaluation of one’s actions and perceptions. While I am in no way going to claim I have reached the maturity level to even claim I have come close to understanding myself, I have spent some time on it. This self-image has also been evaluated by my girlfriend, who I have been going out with for 3 years now, as a person who has seen in multiple facets of situations.

Generally I try to outline the Ying and the Yang of everything, but I believe its in our image of self that this becomes most unclear, so much so that I don’t even think one must consider personality having two sides. The first aspect of understanding and realizing the self is accepting it, unless one is able to accept it (something I have difficulty doing). For some time I used to call myself a chameleon due to my changing personality with different people. I quickly absorbed the personality of the person in front of me. While this helped me often make the people with me comfortable (I like to believe I wasn’t an annoying mimicking person), I began realizing I was having difficulty keeping my thoughts and ideas separate from the person/people I was around at the moment. I also realized that I was losing reliability, especially when I realized that people saw the discrepancy in my personality in different groups.

Reliability is probably the single most important asset of a person, and I set out to evaluate myself on this factor. These helped me not only stand-up for myself and share my own opinions, but also drove me to be consistent and dependable in other areas. Professor MacLeod, finance professor at OWU and my advisor, frequently complained about my untimely entrance to class. The frustration of not being punctual was further realized when my supervisor at work gave me an excellent review on everything except punctuality. This led me to take every thing I do as a commitment and to fulfill each commitment to the best of my abilities. The change and respect it brought was evident very soon. Most noticeably when my supervisor changed the next year, and I was given a position with more responsibility and trust. Since this supervisor was not aware of my previous problems with punctuality, she saw the side of me which treated each meeting like a commitment and gave punctuality and dependability a priority. I frequently got complemented on my dependability, not only from my direct employer, but also her colleagues who saw that I was always the first person arrive for a meeting, and was never late.

I write this article to show you how important dependability, and the various ways that I increased my dependability. To put it very briefly, I realized my honest-self and developed consistency across different people, and I developed a habit of always being prepared and on time for my meetings/commitments.”

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Commitment to start blogging again

This is to state that I will start blogging once a week again. Some posts will be shorter and some longer depending on the time I have, but I realize that I need to start doing it, and that NOW is the best time to do it. Every day that I delay will be another day late. I’ll start by posting some of my older “wisdom” and then move to newer content soon. 

I’d appreciate if you commented something, anything at all. It will help me stay motivated towards this commitment. To all my future readers and commentors, thanks in advance. 

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What is Giifa?

This is the first blog post from Giifa.

What is Giifa?

Giifa is a website that will serve as a platform for crowd-funding jobs in non-profits. Member organizations will be able to post new jobs on Giifa, that they are creating by employing currently unemployed people. It will allow donors who support either job creation by donating small amounts of money to the people they choose. Once a person is fully-funded, they are employed by the particular organization. One can donate as less as $20, to help a person get employed. You will also be able to help create jobs for organizations you currently support. Giifa’s mission is to make donations more transparent, while empowering every individual to create jobs, and help the US economy recover.

Origin of idea

I have always been a fan of kiva, a website that made peer-to-peer microfinancing possible. I liked it so much, that we had a club in my university, just to have fundraisers, so that I an my club members could making a bigger contribution to the lives of these people. I have even met a Kiva Fellow, and have worked closely with their microfinance partner in Nepal. So, it was not entirely surprising to me, that around 5 month back, I had an idea to use a a peer-to-peer, or crowd-funding model, to help increase employment in the US.

The reason I started thinking about unemployment at all, was because my stock portfolio wasn’t performing too well, and I realized that employment will have to increase, for US economy to become stable again. I also came across an article, which talked about unemployment due to minimum wages. I sincerely think that the only way to get around the problems of minimum wages, is by including private donors t fund the difference between supply of wages by the business, and the demand for it. Policy changes are not an option because the gains from minimum wages, far outstrips the losses from it.

Adding these two ideas gave birth to Giifa. It went from partially funding new jobs to using crowd-funding to wholly funding new jobs in non-profits.

Currently, I am in the process of developing the website, and making business contracts with affiliates to work with. But, before I complete it and launch it, I wanted some help with market research. I have designed a short, 5-question survey, and for every submission I get, I will give $1 to an entrepreneur using kiva’s website. More details here . ‘

P.S. PLEASE FOLLOW OUR DEVELOPMENT BY SUBSCRIBING TO @GIIFA ON TWITTER. WE HAVE MOVED OUR BLOG TO TUMBLR.GIIFA.COM! :)

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